How to Please a Sad*ist or Deal with His Behavior?
A few types of people’s personalities have a higher propensity to cause harm to others than the ordinary person does. sad*ists are driven by an innate desire to cause pain and suffering in other people. This is because people with sad*istic dispositions find cruelty gratifying, in general attractive, and can even be sexually stimulating.
Sadism is the desire and intention to cause harm to others (verbally or physically) for personal gain. It is critical to determine the source of the sad*istic personality before beginning treatment. A desire for power and control characterizes sadism. The following are the fundamental causes behind this desire:
- Child or domestic violence
- Personal setbacks
Positive power channeling can assist the patient in overcoming sad*istic desires. To change a person’s conduct, most sad*istic behavior cases require counseling and therapy. Patients with sad*istic personalities must get long-term treatment to recover fully.
The patient’s compliance with the treatment is critical. Failure to cooperate with the therapy and counseling can jeopardize the treatment’s outcome. Showing them that their victims aren’t genuinely hurting from their deeds is another technique to treat sadism.
What exactly is sadism?
Sadism is a psychological illness where people get pleasure from inflicting suffering on others. During the aggression, sadism was linked to a good outcome (satisfaction). The victim’s pain resulting from the sad*ist’s forceful deed was necessary for the enjoyment.
The sad*ist may have an adverse reaction to the aggressive activity (guilt feeling). sad*istic behavior frequently backfires, causing significant distress following the outburst. Everyone has emotionally wounded someone in some way. Among them are:
- Because of their ignorance
- Amid a heated debate
- When you’re feeling intimidated
- Sadism, on the other hand, is not the same as the previous behaviors. Sadism has several main components, including:
- Intent to cause harm.
- Getting pleasure from causing misery to others
- An absence of regret
- Inability to accept responsibility
- Some of the qualities of someone with a sad*istic nature include:
- They take pleasure in seeing people suffer.
- They take pleasure in inflicting harm on others.
- They enjoy the thought of others suffering.
- They believe it is OK to harm others.
- They fantasize about causing harm to others.
- To keep others in line, they enjoy humiliating them.
- Bondage, gagging, slapping, hair pulling, and choking are some of the sexual actions they may urge their partners to submit to.
- Their bullying can take many different forms.
What are your options?
Pay close attention to your emotions. Members of the Dark Tetrad are masters at instilling feelings of self-doubt, shock, shame, rage, betrayal, and guilt for harboring these thoughts toward the offender. If you have any of the above encounters with someone in your life, you may be dealing with someone who falls into one of the DT categories.
Recognize and let go of any desire to change, “heal,” or “reform” the saddist or other “dark personality.” It won’t work, and it’ll merely give someone who is essentially exploitative and cruel pleasure in your continuing suffering or humiliation, another “weakness.” Similarly, give up all sad*ist’s chances to admit guilt or express regret. It’s not in their nature for them to do so.
Investigate whether or whether you are a “priority target.” sad*ists have the uncanny capacity to predict when someone will accept, ignore, deny, explain, or even take the blame for the sad*ist’s damaging actions. It is unclear why this skill exists, but sad*ists have it nonetheless. Imagine that you have a tendency to draw sad*ists into your life, whether it be at work or in social circumstances; think about the reasons why you have tolerated it up to this point.
Create a pros and cons list to help you decide whether or not to continue being in a relationship with someone who treats you poorly. Find people who have a track record of treating you well and honoring your boundaries, and make them your priority.
Determine what healthy boundaries will look like for you, or what kind of boundary you’ll need to establish in order to feel emotionally or otherwise safe when interacting with the sad*ist in the future if you’ll be dealing with them (e.g., if the sad*ist is a boss, sibling, parent or in-law).
Examples of proper boundaries include restricting the amount of time spent in contact with an sad*ist, limiting the amount of time spent in communication with them, being careful about what you discuss with them, or cutting off the connection totally for a period of time or indefinitely.
At first, the sad*ist will almost probably be resistant to your efforts to alter the nature of your connection with them. In spite of this, if you continue to enforce the new boundaries, they will eventually be forced to look elsewhere for their “supply.”
Always seek the advice of an expert when in doubt. It is difficult for many people to accept the idea that someone they know takes joy in their suffering, and this is especially true when the individual in question is someone they hold dear. It’s just not how most people are, and the rest of us tend to assume that others would adhere to the same social standards and personal beliefs that we do.
But that’s not how most people are. Denying the reality of the situation is a common reaction to any cognitive dissonance that arises between what you experience and what it is convenient for you to believe. Performing the essential “reality check” and designing a defense strategy both need the assistance of an expert who can help you.
At some point in their lives, everyone has caused emotional hurt to another person, whether it was as a result of ignorance, a heated argument, or a feeling of being threatened. The intent to do harm, pleasure in adding to the suffering of another, an absence of remorse, and a refusal to take responsibility are all essential components of sad*istic behavior in everyday life.
You should be able to identify people who are trying to harm you and take steps to defend yourself with the help of the tips that were provided above.