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How to Save your Relationship From Breaking?
No matter how strong a relationship is, it can face challenges. It even comes to a point when you feel it is not salvageable. Many issues can crop up if you do not face and work on these challenges. These issues can include infidelity, breaking off and on again, and having a toxic relationship. It can also lead to physical abuse, a lack of intimacy, and more. Working on these issues will help you save it and create a strong bond with your partner. But throwing in the towel will not work. So, how can you save your struggling relationship with your partner? Here are a few expert-recommended tips to try:
Determine if you are still in love and want to be together.
Are you fighting with your partner often? If yes, is the reason just the small fights due to frustration at some things, or are you angry with your partner for another reason? If there is a hidden reason, figure that out. Then determine if you are still in love with your partner and want to be together. If you are not in love with your partner, no amount of communication or therapy will help. Because when you are not in love, you will both be miserable. Work on your relationship if you are still in love but lack communication and arguments are there.
Take responsibility when at fault.
If you cheated on your partner or broke their trust, you owe it to them. Don’t try to sidestep or become defensive about your mistake. Breaking your partner’s trust is your fault, regardless of the reason. It is your fault, even if your partner’s behavior drove you to cheat. You have hurt your partner; ensure you owe it. Do not loathe yourself, but work on building trust. Also, the partner who got cheated on must give their partner a chance to regain their trust. If they are truly sorry and you love them, giving them a chance to earn your trust will help.
Yes, fighting helps, but only if you do it right. Things get better when you fight healthily to bring everything out in the open. You both are honest with each other, talking about the issues between you two and more. Do not lash out or argue with each other. That will drive you both apart.
Take professional help
If there is a communication gap or broken trust between you two, you can seek professional help. Going to relationship and marriage counseling will help you both find a way to communicate with each other. No matter the issue, with an expert guiding you, you can salvage the relationship if you want to. Remember, if there is no will to save the relationship, no one can help you.
When a relationship is strained, even the smallest things can worsen things. So, if you both are arguing with each other, remember to keep the volume low. Do not yell at each other. It will only make things worse. Also, when you yell, you both become angrier. You might say something to each other that you will regret later. Things you say while yelling can also deeply hurt your partner; it makes it challenging for you both to return to normal.
Have date nights
Many relationships break because people stop making an effort after getting together. They take their partner for granted, but you should never do it. The best way to show effort is to have weekly date nights. Determine a plan that works for you both; get a babysitter if you have kids but have date nights. Ignoring date nights will make you and your partner distant and increase the communication gap. So, make it a point to always have date nights.
Visit often when in a long-distance relationship.
If you and your partner are in a long-distance relationship, work hard to be there for each other. For one thing, try to have scheduled visits. If you do not plan your visits, the stress on you both will be great. It can strain your relationship. So, plan your reunions.
Moreover, manage expectations. Understand that you both are in different cities or countries, so sometimes even the planned reunions cannot work. Even in other aspects, managing expectations helps. Set boundaries and be honest about what you expect from your partner. All this helps keep your long-distance relationship alive.
Try new things in between sheets.
If your sex life is dull or nonexistent, it can strain your relationship. Having a good sexual life is essential for a happy relationship. If not, it can lead to infidelity and other relationship issues. A sex therapist can help you bring newness to your sexual life. You can also try new things on your own. For instance, role-playing or introducing sex toys is an incredible way to spruce up your sex life. Moreover, being intimate with each other is more than just having sex. Cuddling, caressing each other, and hugging help too.
Express gratitude and appreciate little things.
In a relationship, little things matter. Do not take your partner for granted. Appreciate the little things your partner does for you. Even if they make coffee for you, you should appreciate it. And make it a point to appreciate your partner every day. And do other little things for them, like sending a cute little message when they are in the office. Or if you know they have a big presentation, send them a sweet message to boost their spirits. All these small things help make the relationship stronger.
Do not let social media ruin your relationship.
There should not be a third person in your relationship. Believe it or not, these days, social media acts as a third person in a relationship. Never check emails or social media when you are with your partner. When discussing something important, put your phone aside. When spending quality time together, never check your phone in between.
There is no single answer to how to save your relationship. There are so many things you can try. But the trick is that both partners should put in the effort.